From the outside, my career seemed like a success story. I was climbing the ladder, taking on new challenges, and earning the respect of my peers. But inside, it was a different story. Despite my achievements, I struggled constantly with self-confidence. I doubted every decision, feared every presentation, and agonized over every interaction. It felt like I was just one mistake away from everyone discovering I wasn't as capable as they thought.
Determined to overcome these feelings, I threw myself into every training and self-help course I could find. From leadership workshops and personal development seminars to graduate degrees and certifications, I believed that if I could just learn the right skills, my self-doubt would disappear. I worked longer hours, took on more projects, and pushed myself to the brink of exhaustion, thinking that if I could just achieve enough, I would finally feel confident.
But instead of finding peace, I found burnout—three times over. Each burnout was a painful reminder that I was chasing solutions without addressing the root cause of my issues. It wasn't until my third and most debilitating burnout that I finally paused to reflect on what was truly driving my anxiety and self-doubt.
That reflection led me to the deeper, underlying issues that training after training had failed to touch: the core beliefs about my worth and capabilities that had taken root early in my life and the nervous system dysregulation that kept me in flight, fight and eventually crashed..
Recognizing this was the beginning of my true healing journey. I shifted my focus from external validation to internal acceptance. I embraced therapies that went deeper than skill-building, focusing on transforming my self-perception and healing from the inside out. I learned skills to help regulate, rewire and heal my brain and nervous system as well as past trauma.
The transformation was profound. Not only did I begin to genuinely believe in my abilities, but I also learned how to sustain this belief without constant external achievements. I discovered how to work effectively without overworking, how to excel without exhausting myself, and how to lead with confidence without fearing vulnerability. I felt regulated and could manage stressors with more resilience than ever.
Now, I've built my practice around these principles. I help other high-achieving women who see parts of their story in mine. I guide them beyond superficial solutions to the foundational changes that allow them to lead and live with genuine confidence and resilience Using the tools and insights that were pivotal in my own journey, I help them uncover and address the root causes of their struggles, transforming their professional lives, personal relationships and health.
Every day, I am motivated by the transformations I see. It's not just about career success; it's about helping these women find a sense of peace and fulfillment that resonates in every part of their lives. This is why I do what I do. I've been where they are, and I know the way out.
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